“To Tantrum or not to tantrum? That is the question…”
This week has been the week of #JohnLewisTantrumGate
If you haven’t heard about it by some miracle, here is a link to the article…
The Independent – John Lewis Tantrum
It has cause quite the furor and everyone has been talking about it, including a page on Facebook I read called, Huffington Post Parents.
On there last night, I saw an article written by them about children having tantrums and it asked you to finish this sentence,
“I stop my child having a tantrum by…”
…and obviously me being me, I had to answer it in typical ‘Life is Knutts’ fashion by saying,
“Throwing juice and snacks at them and, if that doesn’t work, we go home and I pour a Gin”.
(Cue laughter…or not).
7 people found my comment funny. They have a sense of humour and are probably parents like you or I, fully aware of the daily struggles you face when you have kids.
However, we aren’t all the same and someone took offense to my response and replied to my post with this…
I’ll be honest with you all. I do offer snacks and juice to my toddler in the midst of a public outburst, jeez, I’m sure I’ve even offered to take him to Peppa Pig world in a helicopter before now if he will just calm the chuff down!
There is truly not much worse than having to deal with the stares and glances you inevitably get when out and about and your toddler has decided to have the mother of all meltdowns (possibly because he’s decided he doesn’t like wearing clothes in public anymore and wants to be naked in the middle of Morrisons (yes, this has happened…)).
You want nothing more than for the tantrum to finish. To calm them down. To look like you’re a good mum who is in control. But the fact of the matter is, there is no reasoning or rationalising with a toddler in the midst of a tantrum. It’s happening and there’s nothing you can do about it (like that scene in the movie Bridesmaids where she has an upset tummy and poops in her wedding dress fitting in the middle of the street… “It’s happening” – yes Hun, it is. And there’s chuff all you can do about it).
I don’t mind that this lady has an opinion different to mine, we are all allowed a say, but i do mind the fact she felt like she could kick off at me about it because I know full well if I’d replied with “of course it’s not satire, i genuinely do throw snacks and juice at him and later in the day, I will probably have a little Gin and Tonic” she would’ve let rip at me.
Her answer to the initial question asked was,
So, before I got upset about being a crap mum who is clueless, I decided to try this approach earlier this morning when my toddler had an epic meltdown because he had to say goodbye to one of his little friends on the walk home from school. He was very upset and did this on the dog poo verge down the alleyway, narrowly avoiding laying down in a turd…
After taking this photo (important for blogging purposes) I scooped him up and gave him a cuddle. I told him calmly I knew he was sad his friend had to go but that we could go and watch the trains on the bridge instead. This little chat and cuddle attempt ended with him slapping me hard around the face and pulling my hair.
I can safely conclude that from giving this lady’s approach to a tantrum a go, it made no chuffing difference whatsoever and actually what did work in the end, 2 minutes later, was a custard cream out of my bag. And there we have it ladies and gents, biscuits are the answer. Like I needed an excuse for a biscuit…
So, in conclusion, there is nothing that helps with a tantrum. You’ve just got to ride it out. If they’re being noisy and you can escape the situation and try to calm them in a private place then fab but if you can’t, don’t stress. It’s all normal behaviour (as annoying as it is) and their little brains are still developing and learning to cope with the world (much like Donald Trumps…how is this man doing so well?!?! Scary shizzle people, he’s going to be leader of the free world before we know it… 😭🙈).
So, thanks for your comment Nicole but I’ll stick to my style of parenting thanks. And you to yours. And that’s fine. Just don’t try and belittle others because they don’t conform to your ideas.
Peace out sisters and brothers ✌🏻️