Britmums Daily Photo Challenge: Day 7 – Work



A tricky subject to tackle when you’re “just a stay at home mum…”

I hate that phrase. I’ve always worked but sadly, because of the costs of childcare and because it works best for our family, I’ve sacrificed this part of me. Do I miss it? Of course. Am I resentful of it? Sometimes, yes. But then I stop and remind myself that it’s not all about me anymore. It’s about these little extensions of me/us that we’ve bought into the world and doing what’s best for them. Even if it means sacrificing something you love, you do it for your family.

But that then got me thinking, we are all so much more than just Mum’s who stay at home, have coffee mornings and gossip – contrary to what many people think. 

We are many things all at the same time. And that’s amazing. We are amazing. And the stay at home dads too, and the grandparents that have their grandchildren so the parents can still go to work and provide, and to the friends who help each other out, all of you. You’re all amazing.

So even though I don’t go out to ‘work’ at a real job, I do work. I do have a job and a role in life. It’s just a different one, for now anyway…don’t ever let anyone tell you any different.




  1. March 8, 2016 / 12:29 am

    Well said. I love being a stay at home mum but, even if I didn’t, we wouldn’t actually have an option – we have no family near by and I didn’t & wouldn’t earn enough to cover the costs of childcare for two little ones. I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer about whether to work or stay at home – it always depends on individual circumstances. But it does annoy me that as well as a lot of suggestions that it is easy and you don’t really do anything or contribute if you stay at home, there are also a lot of people who believe it is okay to regard it as a position of ‘luck’ and ‘privilege’ that they can resent and be jealous of. I don’t like that because it ignores the people for whom the only financially viable option is for one parent to stay home, and also the people who weren’t so rich they could afford this ‘luxury’, but have instead made sacrifices in order to do it. That isn’t luck: it’s making choices and sacrifices for those choices, like everyone does.

  2. March 8, 2016 / 12:03 pm

    That’s the sweetest reply. Thanks so much for reading and writing.
    I 100% understand what you’re saying and it does go super fast. My eldest is only 8 but he’s growing up faster than I can cope with. I’ll stop feeling guilty and enjoy it.xx
    Thanks again!x

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